tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20691740.post115999816152695253..comments2023-05-30T04:14:47.315-07:00Comments on Exiled In Toyland: Good cop, bad cop ... or accomplice?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20691740.post-1164646652771931212006-11-27T08:57:00.000-08:002006-11-27T08:57:00.000-08:00you know.. as a mother of a boy i didnt thikn i wo...you know.. as a mother of a boy i didnt thikn i would have an opinion on this... but i must its an eyesore to see the way kids dress.. and i am no prude... despite living in india i have my backless and halter necks and short tops and shorts too.... <BR/><BR/>but i detest little girls in spangly spaghetti strap tops and leather skirts... what are the parents thinking?<BR/>i also have an issue with boys wearing low jeans that show their underwear off... its simply not tasteful. <BR/><BR/>as a parent.. regardless of boy or girl... i would trust ur judgement.. there cant be any one rule. a little frilly sundress or a top that knots up showing off a little baby belly button is cute when its in pink polka dots.. its not cute when its a shiny red and says something like 'juicy' or 'hotstuff'<BR/><BR/>I am sure most of us as parents are capable of knowing where the line is to be drawn.... <BR/><BR/>and yeah.. the basic rule.. grimace and they will insist on it.. ignore and hopefully they will lose interest in it... and perhaps going shopping with them and guiding them might help.. i dont know .. as a mother of an 18 mth old i am too far away from that day!!!the mad mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14535453643548976883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20691740.post-1160675162249758652006-10-12T10:46:00.000-07:002006-10-12T10:46:00.000-07:00I gave my children the freedom to choose their clo...I gave my children the freedom to choose their clothing. It is not all to my liking but that is ok. My son prefers dress slacks and a nice button up shirt. My daughter is in an all black and all baggie phase. It takes her less time to dress than most of her friends due to everything matches. My youngest is just now at the point everything must match, right down to her underwear(he,he,he) Like so many girls her age she loves to wear pink everything. I am trying to branch her out to other colors but no rush.<BR/><BR/>I am sure your little one will enjoy trying out many different looks along the way to finding her own look. She will be just fine.MommasWorldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06485437827291277780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20691740.post-1160489541847085712006-10-10T07:12:00.000-07:002006-10-10T07:12:00.000-07:00My biggest pet peeve is middleaged women who shop ...My biggest pet peeve is middleaged women who shop in the juniors department!! And by junior's department I mean the trashy "club" clothes look....It makes me shudder!!!<BR/><BR/>The other day I saw a mother and daughter at the mall dressed pretty much alike....and I jsut thought....not only should YOU not be wearing that, SHE shouldn't be either!!! <BR/><BR/>In a perfect world we as women should be able to wear what ever we want.....but it isn't a perfect world...and there's freaks out there!!! And I see no reason to entice them!!Kate Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05004680691908267332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20691740.post-1160407900618974882006-10-09T08:31:00.000-07:002006-10-09T08:31:00.000-07:00I'm hoping to be able to take these things on a ca...I'm hoping to be able to take these things on a case by case basis. I want to give my kid(s) freedom to dress how by choice, within reason. It's that reason part that's so hard. Who knows what will be fashionable by then, so it's hard to say what's reasonable now. <BR/><BR/>In the same vein as what GGC's said the last couple days, I don't want to be so strict that the human body becomes overly sexualized or dirty, but on the other hand, I don't want the opposite end of the spectrum either, like the girls you saw on that street corner. It's just so dang hard to say.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20691740.post-1160335959045776872006-10-08T12:32:00.000-07:002006-10-08T12:32:00.000-07:00Oy to the freaking vey, as GGC says. My own parent...Oy to the freaking vey, as GGC says. My own parents' appraoch to this one seemed to work well: when they saw me in something they loved, they grimaced, and voila! I wore it all the time. Of course, I was much more the kool-aid dyed hair and combat boots, too, but like you said: at least I was covered.<BR/><BR/>And while I hope to be the kind of person who educates her son on the benefits of clothing that allows for a bit of, ah, imagination and mystery, my husband has pointed out more than once that the women/girls he's observed tend to dress more for each other than for the approval/attraction boys/men, so I dunno if my efforts will even make a dent.<BR/><BR/>Of course, based on what ittybit wore to yoga the other day, she seems mindful of the "more is more" concept where clothing is concerned!the stefanie formerly known as stefanierjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15013458822395746109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20691740.post-1160281838270127332006-10-07T21:30:00.000-07:002006-10-07T21:30:00.000-07:00this is such a difficult issue. I feel it intense...this is such a difficult issue. I feel it intensely, even with being the mother of a boy-child (at this point, anyway).<BR/><BR/>it's a thunker. it makes my head feel pretty thunky.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14163363926316904033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20691740.post-1160245905859336552006-10-07T11:31:00.000-07:002006-10-07T11:31:00.000-07:00Be Still: YOU ARE SO RIGHT! I should really point ...Be Still: YOU ARE SO RIGHT! I should really point out that the boy was dressed as "provocatively" as the girls were. He was wearing skin-tight pants that were hanging down from his hips as to show off a sizable portion of his boxers.<BR/><BR/>I didn't mention it because I had discounted him thinking: Boys aren't vulnerable. They aren't viewed as SEXY. Women don't lust after boys half their age the way men lust after girls. Men have always had the power. <BR/>I didn't look at him and think" SEX." His dress, to me, seemed more innocous "fashion blunder."<BR/><BR/>So yeah - double standard.<BR/><BR/>I suppose I believe (perhaps unwisely) that there are relatively few boys who - outside of getting an STD or getting someone pregnant - seriously regretted having sex when they were 16 or younger. I know LOTS of women who did, even into their early 20s. They were more apt to feel that they'd been desperately seeking approval and chose exactly what they didn't need.toyfotohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17925976386177377987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20691740.post-1160228698378209112006-10-07T06:44:00.000-07:002006-10-07T06:44:00.000-07:00I started to leave a comment along the lines of be...I started to leave a comment along the lines of being glad I had a boy and didn't have to deal with this issue.<BR/><BR/>However, as the thought was leaving my brain, I was guilty of the same double standard that I think is at work in our culture.<BR/><BR/>And that's exactly the issue: I'm the problem. I hold girls to a different sexual standard than boys even though I know it isn't fair.<BR/><BR/>I don't have any answers or thoughts further than this (It's Saturday morning and I haven't had my coffee), but this was a great thought-provoking post Siobhan.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20691740.post-1160201760076424182006-10-06T23:16:00.000-07:002006-10-06T23:16:00.000-07:00i've noticed it all over blogworld lately - the de...i've noticed it all over blogworld lately - the debate over how to keep our girls from being overly sexualized without compromising their developing sexuality. it's a pickle. am glad i have 9 or 10 more years to work it out. glad i came across your blog. dig it, sister.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20691740.post-1160189709464668922006-10-06T19:55:00.000-07:002006-10-06T19:55:00.000-07:00If you ever EVER talk about buying yourself khakis...If you ever EVER talk about buying yourself khakis pants and a tasteful 3/4 sleeve top I will personally come down and intervene.<BR/><BR/>My Big Girl is 9, and she is fairly funky. She likes the pants with skirts over them layered look. She prefers black ( I am so proud). But I draw the line at shirts showing belly. And if she wants to wear a short short skirt, she has to wear shorts underneath.<BR/><BR/>I think setting limits but allowing creativity in dressing is great. I even allow lipgloss, and I will let them go out in full Halloween attire if they want. <BR/><BR/>But no bellies and no butt.crazymummahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04663148723513574331noreply@blogger.com